The I In Team

The first thing that comes to mind when I consider what I would be like as a head coach in a team sport is…I would work hard to ensure every player got to see at least some action in every game.

That concept was forged when I was just thirteen years old. At that age, I was a 7th grade, third-string quarterback on my junior high football team, which consisted of players from 7th-9th grade.

The starting quarterback was a 9th grader, a son of one of our senior high school team’s coaches. Mind you, he did not become a starter on that pedigree alone. He was an excellent player who went on to play some college ball as well. The back-up quarterback was also older and more experienced than I…not nearly as good as our starter…but definitely better than me.

Our school enjoyed a healthy advantage when it came to student enrollment, and as such were dominant against most schools who had a lower number of students to draw from. In this particular season, our team won all six of its games. I believe the “closest” any team got to us all year may have been 21 points. We overwhelmed all of our opponents that year.

The head coach of our junior high team (who was a coach on the senior high team also) visibly enjoyed not only defeating opponents, but annihilating them. In that spirit, our starting players played almost every play of every game.

In our last game of the season, we went up by 30-0 fairly quickly and maintained that score to the final whistle. I did not play in that game.

I did not play in any of our games that year.

Even though we dominated the opposition in every one of our games, with outcomes never in doubt, I did not play one single play.

As I recall, the second-string QB did get into one game that year…but at another position. Our stellar, super-star quarterback – for whatever reason – had to take every snap from center that season. We not only had to win, but had to win by as much as possible.

Football is a challenging game to play. Practice for upcoming seasons often begins in relentless heat and humidity…and I grew up in a time when water breaks were still considered quite the luxury rather than mandatory. And then of course…there’s all those repetitive collisions with other people to consider. It’s a brutal sport at any age.

I knew I’d have a big adjustment at my new school, and I will admit things between my parents could have been better at that time, but I really wanted to play football and was determined to do so. I kept my grades up, made some new friends, and showed up for football practice every single day.

Yet, practice football was all I was accorded. I did not get to actually play football.

I was devastated.

After that season, I focused on basketball and baseball. I also played a year of soccer…but football was over for me. Yes, in those other sports there were still times when I was the guy not playing so much, and other times when others were most often watching me play. It just wasn’t as severe as that 7th grade football season.

I think back…what if I had played just one play that year…played in any of those games at all? Would I have stuck with football? I just could not reconcile returning to it after sitting on the sidelines the whole season. For sure, being better at those other sports certainly factored into the decision to step away from it as well.

Next month, the Little League Baseball International World Series will once again return to Williamsport PA. It’s not that far from where I live, and I have attended a couple of them. This season marks the 75th anniversary of the World Series, and it once again will be a late Summer ritual for fans young and old alike. Several years ago, there was a new category of rules added to Little League Baseball called Mandatory Play. It is as it sounds, making sure all players on a team actually get to play in actual games…not just practice. I think it’s a great thing.

I fully recognize the priority of a head coach, especially at “business” levels, is to win. It’s just my feeling to help ensure an entire team stays actively engaged throughout the year, what better way to do so than to have each player alert to the fact they’re going to be called upon to contribute at any moment? Seasons are long. I think a no-brainer way to keep your players motivated is to assure them they aren’t just going to practice…but play…all year.

I hear high school, college and professional head coaches lament the fact they don’t have enough depth on their teams, are lacking at certain positions, etc. These are often the same coaches who never use their benches no matter what. Maybe their substitutes would be better if they let them into competition once in a while? Who knows, they might find out one or more can contribute more than first thought? Some athletes shine brightest when the bright lights are on…and the minutes actually count for something.

If my team’s substitutes were clearly a couple notches down in ability below my starters, I would still work hard to find a way to get them onto the field, onto the court, etc. I’d be rotating them into play with the majority of starters still playing. I would find ways to not compromise the team’s chances of winning, but still making sure everyone truly felt like a part of the team’s fortunes.

I acknowledge there are team sports where getting everyone onto the playing surface each time out isn’t feasible. I also get the tremendous amount of pressure on head coaches at any level…to just win.

Still, I’d like to think even if it sounds naïve or idealistic on the surface, deep down I’d aspire for my teams to always play together…not just practice together.


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13 thoughts on “The I In Team”

  1. Sports by its very definition is competitive and unless you’re playing a friendly backyard game or are in grade school… the object is to win. My husband coached a womens softball team on a Marine Corps base years ago. The players were good, they paid money to join and compete. They wanted to win. When a no account clueless girl was added to the roster my husband tried to be fair. She played, but not every game. When she cried because she sat the bench too much, my husband put her in right field. Where she immediately botched a high fly and allowed two runs to score, causing a loss. The team was angry and let him know it.
    Everyone shouldn’t get a trophy. I don’t think that teaches our children the proper lesson of wins and losses. They’ll have plenty of both in life.

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  2. Well I’ve always been a no account clueless girl in my younger years when it came to sport, I never felt the need to either play or win anything but I had brains, compassion and a curvy figure, so I reckon I won at life anyways 🤣.

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    1. I hear you. I was… and still am… helplessly clueless when it comes to playing sports. Which is why I don’t join competitive leagues. Knowing your strengths is always a win.

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  3. I have to agree, if your team is winning by a huge margin, let the lowly players play. When it comes to championship games, though, I tend to think a little differently. But I know little about sports, so I’ll stick to the topics I’ve got a good handle on.

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  4. Your post reminded of a conversation I overheard on the bus Freshman year of high school. One aspiring quarterback was trying to cajole a classmate to tell Coach he wanted to play a different position than quarterback on the Freshman team. I suspect Coach was going to play whichever QB he thought could help him win games.

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  5. Bruce! I’ve been wanting to write this post for a long time now but I just haven’t done it yet. I’m probably scared to offend all of the coaches I work with at high school. The other thing holding me back was my son was in Little League baseball for years and we had a miserable time with these coaches acting like jerks.

    I completely and totally agree with you! My thinking is at least all the way up to Varsity level high school sports that ALL the kids should play regardless of skill level. Your story about your 7th grade football situation grinds my gears. What is wrong with these coaches! They must have no sense of empathy. They must have no idea how much it bothers kids/people that put in the work but never play in the games. I absolutely hate it. I might even reblog your post if you’re ok with it.

    Thanks Bruce!
    Reid “Dutch Lion”

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  6. Reid, thanks for the kind words. Unfortunately, you and I are very much in the minority. One of my other posts recently dealt with the fact no one wants to be told what to do. My idealism here will never become reality because too much emphasis has been placed on winning at the early-youth levels now…as you noted. If anything, it’s going to be people like us who drive meaningful change on a face-to-face, one-on-one level.

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  7. Love this post and completely agree with you that every kid should get the chance to play. There really is no reason why they shouldn’t. If the coach is that hung up on winning, then they shouldn’t be the coach.

    I remember my childhood softball teams as a kid. Not everyone is at the same level. Some are new to the sport and still learning how to catch and hit and field. As a teammate, not once do I ever remember seeing anyone on the team get frustrated or disappointed that someone would strike out, or not throw to the right base. We were all very encouraging. And when they got a git, or made a good play, we were their biggest cheerleaders. We all wanted to win, but we wanted to win together, because everyone has something to contribute even if they aren’t “the best”. More coaches should recognize that.

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    1. Paul, glad there are folks like you who agree this shouldn’t be a hard ask. Heck, if I was a pro coach I’d still want everyone on that bench engaged and get in an appearance each game. That’s just what I’d want for any team that had my name on it.

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      1. I think about this every time I see an NBA team up 20 points with 5 minutes left and they still have their starters in. Sure, teams can close a deficit like that a lot quicker these days, but I’ll always be staring at the screen begging for the coach to put in players from the end of the bench.

        When I was younger and the Raptors weren’t good, I’d always look forward to the last game of the season because that would be the only time they wouldn’t play their “stars” and would start players who never got any playing time.

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  8. This is a great post, Bruce, but a sad commentary on what still happens in kids’ sports. I used to coach a city soccer league for U6 and U8 (under 6 years and under 8 years of age). We had fun, we were league champs one season, but I played all the kids. What floored me was the men coaches (a lot of military retirees) who did not like a woman (me and my two female assistants), so would ‘coach’ me in their signals to their boys on when to take out a player. Take out a player? Yes. They kept their good players in because it was all about winning. My kids are grown now and hardly remember those games. But I sure do.

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    1. Lois, that certainly is something which would stay with me as well. At one point I had hope those of us who have the big picture in mind would “win the day.” But I see nothing now but seas and seas of ultra-competitive, laser-focused coaches at all ages who don’t care about developing everyone, just those they feel can win them games.

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